With more sororities than I could count on my hand and not having anyone in my family that had ever been involved in Greek life, all of the advice people had given me about recruitment seemed to go in one ear and out the other when I was a PNM. There was no denying the apprehension that still lurked in the back of my mind, even after bid day. I had a million thoughts in my head- how do I truly know that Phi Mu is the right fit for me? What if I don’t make any friends? Why am I going to pay all this money if I could end up hating it? Was I really going to find my future bridesmaid and have the best four years of my life like college is cracked up to be? Basically I was a worry-wart if you didn’t get that vibe yet. But what I want to reassure all of the wondering, lost, or anxious PNM’s out there about is to take a deep breath and know that things are going to be okay. Be patient, be hopeful, and trust the process because all good things take time- and luckily not too much time, because I’m now finishing my freshman year with not a single doubt in my mind that Phi Mu is the right fit for me. Yes, there will be lonely or awkward moments at the start. I came from out of state and knew only one other person from my high school going to USC. I remember crying, probably only a week after bid day, from just being overwhelmed with anxiety about this new endeavor I was embarking on. I was being way too hard on myself, and didn’t have the wisdom that I have now. But know that you’re not alone. Newsflash-every other freshman or new member is figuring life out just like you’re trying to do. So just don’t let the bad times overshadow the good ones that haven’t happened yet. Key word: yet. Be open to the idea of endless relationships and memories because they are just waiting to blossom. Forget about maybe not having any friends first semester because before you know it you’re likely going to have a thousand instagram followers and groupme messages thanks to your new sisters. It was when I started eating at the house second semester that I really noticed a world of a difference in the growth of my relationships with both the girls in my pledge class and older members. I eventually created friendships that are now equally as strong as the ones with people I’ve known my whole life. So find the beauty that can be found in new beginnings, because Phi Mu is a bond unlike any other. Find the thrill in this new opportunity and see it as a way to make progress. Take it from me and save yourself the stress that’s really unnecessary. But if you do breakdown, then just remember reading this good news to pick yourself back up. I was once filled with anxiety but am now overflowing with happiness in experiencing the sisterhood Phi Mu has given me. I can’t imagine myself in any other sorority. I have sisters that share my love of ice cream, that watch sunsets on the horizon street garage with me, I’ve found my workout buddy, people to study with, partake in Dance Marathon with, and the list goes on. There were so many times when I met people and then found myself saying, “I want to be friends with her.” And I have Phi Mu to thank for bringing such amazing people into my life. Before you know it, any feelings of loneliness will soon disappear l as you’ll become consumed with the excitement of these new friendships and memories. Phi Mu has such a variety of talents and personalities, but I’ve come to notice a commonality that really sets our sisterhood apart and is what makes being in this sorority so special to me. The girls are so genuine and real. There’s always someone to encourage you, no one to judge you if you wear a “groutfit” to a meal, and a unifying kind-spirit all around. It is such a great feeling knowing that I’ve now reached the point where Phi Mu has become my home away from home, and I wouldn’t change this journey for anything.