When I first decided to join a sorority, no one believed me. My friends from high school all laughed, and my family was skeptical I’d make it through recruitment. I couldn’t blame them, I was not a typical sorority girl. I have never owned Lily Pulitzer, and my crafting skills are abysmal. In addition to that, I’ve never been the kind of girl that has a ton of girl friends, all my best friends have always been boys. Yet, when I ran to Phi Mu on Bid Day 2014, there wasn’t a doubt in my mind that was where I belonged, and my faith has never wavered. Every chance I get, I tell girls to join a sorority. Even if they’re skeptical, if they’re nervous, even if the girls hate sororities I tell them to give it a try, and if you’re reading this and you’re a skeptic yourself, then let me tell you why you should join.
You’ll never be alone. It is a rare occasion that I walk into a class and don’t see a Phi Mu. We are, quite literally, everywhere. Whether you’re looking for a study buddy, someone to sit with during lunch, or a ride to the airport. There’s always someone around to help you out. I can’t even begin to count the number of times a sister has come through for me when I needed it. When you’re a college freshman, it’s important to have a support system to help you make it through that tumultuous time. Well, there is no bigger, or better support system than your hundreds of sisters who are going through/have gone through the exact things you have. No matter what, you’re always going to have Phi Mu to watch your back and I can’t imagine a bigger comfort.
It’ll get you involved. I signed up to do Dance Marathon freshman year because it benefits Phi Mu’s philanthropy and everyone was doing it. Back then, I had no idea how important Dance Marathon would become to me, but I am so thankful that Phi Mu led me there. Just weeks after finishing my second Dance Marathon, this time around as a Morale Captain, I am still in total awe of the organization. It has changed my life in so many amazing ways and made me a better human. Without Phi Mu, I never would have done Dance Marathon and my life would be that much more empty. Each sorority has organizations and philanthropies that they hold dear and joining a sorority is one of the best ways to become acquainted with them.
You meet your family. Everyone knows the cliché that every sorority girl loves her big and claims her little is perfect, but those words aren’t empty. Your sorority family has a bond that is indescribable. Your big is the one who introduces you into your sorority, the one you go to for advice, and who brings you Starbucks when you need it most (yes, I’m basic.) And in turn, you take what your big taught you and try to be the example she was to you for your little. Sometimes, you little might be the one giving you advice and a shoulder to cry on. Even though being away at school means being away from your family, you’ll be able to take comfort because you have a new one waiting for you.
Joining a sorority isn’t the right choice for everyone, I’ll admit. But just because you feel you don’t think you fit the sorority stereotype doesn’t mean you’ll never fit in. Sororities aren’t about fitting a mold, they’re about celebrating women of all types. So maybe you’ll go through recruitment and realize it’s not for you, that’s fine at least you gave it a shot. But more likely than not you’ll meet a group of girls who believe in you and love you unconditionally, and I can’t imagine a better scenario.
-Delaney McPherson, Sophomore